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How to be Strong Emotionally?

Everyone has days where they feel emotionally fragile where even the littlest thing can send you crashing down in a puddle of rejection. For many of us, these days are thankfully few and far between, but the rest of us sometimes find ourselves stuck in a delicate emotional state. Below are some tips on how to be emotionally strong in your daily life and in those times when it feels like a light breeze could shatter your outer calm.

Breathe

When you are feeling emotionally vulnerable taking a bit of time to just breathe can do wonders. Focus on inhaling slow and deep, filling your lungs as much as you can, and then slowly let it out. As you exhale let those things that were overwhelming you flow out of you with your breath. Do this anytime something upsets you and you’ll find your ability to withstand various emotional pressures will slowly increase.

Figure Out Your Top Values

We all have our own intrinsic values that we strive to live our lives by. Take some time to assess and identify your top values. Once you have come up with your top 3 to 5, write them down somewhere you see them regularly. Everyday remind yourself of your key values and make it a goal to live by them throughout the day. This way no matter what happens you’ll be being true to yourself. Events and people may try to ruin your new fortitude, but just keep following your values and don’t let distractions bother you.

Give Yourself Compliments

People with good self esteem are more emotionally strong than those with poor self esteem; therefore give yourself regular compliments for a daily confidence boost. Think of several true statements that you are proud of and write them down. These statements must be completely affirmative, no modifiers such as, “I have great legs, but I wish there wasn’t so much cellulite on them.” Don’t allow that second half of the thought enter your mind, because it detracts from the compliment. People are the harshest judges when it to themselves, so don’t worry about your perceived flaws. Everyone has them. Find those genuine things, little or big, that you are proud of and remind yourself of them daily.

You Are the Only Thing You Can Control

It can be hard to realize that no matter how much we try, the only thing we are in control of is ourselves. Most of people will never remember this in 100 percent of situations, but the more we come to accept it the easier our lives become. If someone makes a snide remark to you, don’t let it upset you. They are either jealous of you in some way or they don’t feel confident and try to hide it by being rude. You can ignore them or simply tell them that what they said was rude and that you won’t give it any more of your time in debate or name calling. This can be very hard to do, but not engaging will make you feel better in the long run. The more you disregard spiteful comments, the easier it becomes to ignore them.

There are many techniques to help you become more emotionally strong, but the most effective is self awareness. Know your values, your strengths, your weaknesses. Live by your values and focus more on your strengths than your weaknesses and you will soon find yourself feeling much stronger emotionally. There are all sorts of books and programs written about how to become emotionally strong, but the entire group of programs boil down to knowing and accepting who you truly are.

Written by expert author ‘Emily Cordz’ for Outofstress.com