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Fun Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend to Know Him Better

Getting to know some-one in a new relationship is an exciting time. Learning new things about a longer term partner is also exciting and can help to keep the fires of a relationship burning. None of us react well if we feel we are being subjected to intensive questioning but there is a way to find out something more about your partner and make it fun at the same time. Here are some questions to ask your boyfriend to get to know him better (or girlfriend, husband or wife).

7 Fun Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend

These questions are fun to ask and they will help you know your boyfriend better which will in-turn help your relationship.

1.) What makes you laugh?

The chances are that if you have been with some-one for a while you may already know the answer to this question but still some answers may surprise you. In a new relationship it is a real eye-opener and can tell you a great deal about this new person in your life.

What makes us laugh is an essential part of who we are. It says a lot about our values and our outlook on life. The answers are just as interesting if you ask yourself the same question.

2.) What was your favorite toy when you were a child?

This fun boyfriend question often opens the flood gates on memory and you may have a problem getting the person to stop talking! This question serves three purposes. It will tell you something about your boyfriend’s personality. It will also tell you a great deal about his childhood, as relating stories of this kind will mean discussing the wider subject of being young. Thirdly it will give you an insight into emotions and reactions. When some-one reverts to childhood memories they often subconsciously revert to being parts of the child they were. Children hide less or do it less effectively. Listening to some-one recall in this way can often feel like you are looking in through a very clear window. This is a great question to understand your boyfriend better.

3.) What is your definition of happiness?

Equally ‘happiness’ can be substituted with love, friendship, wealth, loyalty etc. These can be either incredibly easy or incredibly difficult questions to answer but the point of all these questions is to get talking and discussing and gaining some insight. Answers themselves are not always the most telling things. Sometimes the way in which some-one answers can be very revealing. This is a great question to ask to get to better know someone.

4.) Which possession that you have now do you think you will still have in 30 years time?

This fun question strips away any obvious answers like an X-box, a car or his beloved new cell phone and gets to the real essence of what he values and loves.

5.) What is the one thing that some-one you loved could do to you that you would find unforgivable?

You would think the obvious answers would be things such as be unfaithful, steal from me, violence etc but I have asked this question of many people and have been fascinated by the answers. The initial answer is often one of those listed above but is often added to in quite surprising ways. Try it and see.

6.) Who was your favorite teacher at school?

This question will reveal in the same way as the ‘what was your favorite childhood toy’ question. You can also ask you boyfriend what his favorite subject was and why. This is another great question to get to know your boyfriend better.

7.) What is the most important lesson you have learned in life so far?

This a great question for determining the levels of cynicism or optimism of the person you are questioning. It is one of those fun questions that can be very revealing and may lead to deeper insights than you imagined.

Points to Bear in Mind Before Asking Your Boyfriend These Questions

You may find that initially your questioning falls flat. Some people are far more private than others and also some people are naturally deeper thinkers than others. But once you get started with this ‘game’ there is often no stopping it. Most people, even if they are shy and private, enjoy talking about themselves if they are given a safe enough environment to do so without fear of ridicule or appearing silly.

One secret to success here is to make it a reciprocal exercise. You have to take your turn too. If you are not prepared to reveal things about yourself then you can hardly expect some-one else to.

Also, it often helps if you make each question into a top three or top five form. Questions requiring one answer may be responded to with little thought but having to think of several answers makes it more difficult.

Try and keep this activity fun. Getting too serious will sometimes bring everything to a dead halt. Adversely though, remember you may be listening to some-one bearing their innermost soul so tread sensitively and with respect. Have fun.

This article on the questions to ask your boyfriend to understand him better has been written by expert author ‘Deneice Arthurton‘.