5 Tips That Will Help You Handle Bossy People Better

Written by: Sen - CalmDownMind.com

It’s not uncommon to have people who are pushy or bossy in our acquaintance. These people come across as being highly insensitive to our personal space, and sensitivities, and seem to impinge upon our independence.

You may have a bossy father, mother, brother, sister, spouse, neighbor or a friend. It doesn’t matter what role these people play in your life, their attitude will cause you to feel insulted, humiliated, patronized, resentful or upset.

Bossy people are not necessarily “ill intentioned”, but they tend to impose their will and intent upon others, thus impinging on their space and freedom. So how do we deal with these people? How do we tell them that their behavior is not okay and that they need to stop? That’s exactly what I have tried to cover in this article.

Tips for Dealing with Bossy People

I have had a fair share of bossy people in my life and the following pointers have helped me deal with them in the best way possible. Hopefully, they will help you too.

1.) Stay in Touch with Your Inner Guidance

When you are under the influence of bossy people, they can easily get you to do things that don’t feel good to you.

It’s not uncommon for bossy people to use threat, anger, argument and emotional pressure, to get you to do their bidding. If you are not in touch with your own inner guidance, you will fall a victim to their pressure.

No matter how much someone tries to impinge on your freedom, it’s possible for you to stand your ground when you feel confident of your own guidance. When you are not sure of what’s right or wrong from you, it’s easy to be influenced by external pressure.

Meditation is a great way to get in touch with your inner guidance.

2.) Don’t Live in Fear of a Bossy Person

The weapon which most bossy people wield to get their bidding done is ‘fear’. They may use their influence to instill fear in you to get you to abide by their conditions. It’s common to see some parents using the fear of punishment to get their children to do their bidding.

If you really want to be free of the influence of a bossy person, you will have to consciously stop being taken in by ‘fear’ created by their force.

It’s possible to overcome any fear by staying alert and aware whenever fearful emotions try to take over.

Fear will not have power over you if you don’t fear the fear, but stay absolutely rooted in your awareness of it.

Here’s a simple exercise you can do: Sit in a quite room and think about this person. Allow all the fear and anger to arise. Now, instead of getting lost in the fear, become consciously aware of the energy behind the fear. In other words, ‘feel’ your fear. Remember, the keyword here is ‘to feel’. As you feel these energies, they slowly start loosing their hold on you.

3.) Put Your Freedom Above Everything Else

When you feel victimized by people who are bossy around you, it’s simply a reaction of your being to the loss of freedom that you feel within. Only you have the power to reclaim your freedom, and stay free, no-one else can really help you with this. You will always be free of victimizing influences, if you place your freedom above everything.

When freedom is your priority, everything else somehow just comes back into harmony on its own. Remember that a bossy person cannot really take your freedom away from you unless you give him/her the permission to do so. Put freedom above money, relationship and other forms of “pseudo” security that your mind may be seeking. When you feel free within, your external reality will automatically attract benevolent factors into your existence.

4.) Be Willing to Speak up Your Stand

It’s necessary to make your stand clear, and speak up for yourself, when someone is trying to boss around with you. Let them know that you will not stand such behavior.

Don’t get reactive or emotional, but speak from a space of calm presence.

Don’t try to put the other person down, but just make your stand clear, letting them know what you prefer and what your requirements are. Don’t be intimidated by their reaction, just stay calm and composed, rooted in your stand.

5.) Remember there is Nothing that You Need to do

Life is not a “do or die” reality. There is nothing that you “have” to or “need” to do, there are no limitations except the ones that you impose upon yourself. Life is always free and it does not impose any restrictions on your freedom.

The only restriction that lies in your life comes from your own mind. The reason you give in to bossy people is because you feel that you “have” to do their bidding in order to have a secure life.

In truth there is no security in bondage, and though freedom may seem like an uncertain, and may be insecure, arena to the mind, the opposite is actually the case. When you choose freedom over security, it turns out that security emerges from this choice, quite automatically.

Concluding Words

In order to deal with bossy people you need to overcome your fear and insecurity, and find security in your inner guidance. The mind is fearful but your heart always knows the right path to take.

Listen to your heart and train your mind to stand up for what your heart feels is true. True freedom arises when you always make the choice to follow your heart over the fears created by the mind.

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