Complaining is the mind’s way of asserting that something really wrong has happened which is not “acceptable” to it.
You will notice your mind complaining most of the time, about something or the other.
The mind is usually in an adversarial relationship with the present moment, and is rarely at peace with it. So complaining is almost the “normal” habit of a human mind which is not resting in the stillness of being, or which is not “enlightened” to the truth of existence.
Here are 5 pointers on how to stop complaining so much, and thus attract more peace and positivity into your life.
1.) Know That Life is a Stream of Well-Being
Your life in essence, is a constantly expanding movement and it’s always moving towards well-being, abundance and betterment.
The complaining mind cannot accept that life is actually always “benevolent” and expands only in the direction of well-being.
Just look around you – the sun is shining, the earth is rotating peacefully in its axis, the food supply has not diminished even though the population has increased, the technology is ever improving and aims towards making everything easier for you and there is more entertainment now than ever before.
There is a natural balance to life and there is nothing that can tilt this balance.
The mind always tries to look for the one thing that is not working, while ignoring so many things that are working beautifully.
Very few minds, in their un-awakened state, are capable of truly appreciating the miracle of existence. To stop complaining about everything in your ‘mind reality’, just look at how expansive and abundant the space of nature really is.
2.) Don’t Complain, Just Prefer
The mind feels that it needs to complain in order to set things right.
In truth, the opposite is what happens. Here’s why:
Law of attraction dictates creation in this universe. The energy of complaining is negative by its very nature and hence can only produce negative results. Nothing good can ever come out of complaining. That’s a very good reason to stop complaining so much and start appreciating more instead.
Instead of complaining about the things that feel wrong in your life, just take up the attitude of ‘preferring’ or desiring better things without trying to condemn the present.
When you look at something you don’t want/like, instead of complaining about it, just think about how you would like things to be and let go.
A desire that comes forth from you is automatically taken up by the fast moving stream of life and it expands to accommodate your new preference.
‘Preferring’ is what the mind is supposed to do. It’s not here to complain but to prefer and help in the expansion of life stream.
3.) Let Go Of Your Need to be Right
You don’t have to assert your rightness by complaining about how wrong things are.
This habit is not only irritating to others around you, but is a huge energy sapper and it creates negative emotions in your body.
In this reality, there is no such thing as “right” or “wrong”. Good and bad are just perspectives.
One Man’s Meat is Another Man’s Poison.
What seems really “bad” to you might actually be what someone else might have loved to have. It’s a huge freedom to let go of the habit to find the “wrongness” in everything.
4.) Understand That Who You Are is Positive Energy
The reason why “complaining” feels bad to your being is because its vibration is one of lack, powerlessness and fear. On the other hand the vibration of your being is one of peace, love and joy.
When you complain, it will always feel bad in your body because now you are in conflict with your “true nature”.
A great motivation to stop complaining is to know that every time you complain you are fighting against life, against who you really are.
5.) Stay Conscious, and Don’t be Pulled in by Your Mind
You have power to disassociate from your mind, so that you don’t get dragged by its mental projections and commentary.
The mind by its very nature is prone to be in a state of “reaction”. If you are not conscious, you will be dragged into the mind, and for the moment become the mind.
You will notice that when you are conscious, the mind cannot overtake the body in the grip of its thoughts and hence you would end up in a trance of complaining.
Life can be lived in a state of grace and blessedness, if you simply don’t fall for the perceptions and limited conclusions of your mind.
Ignore the mind, or just let it be, without taking it too seriously.
Life takes care of life, so be assured that your well-being is well taken care of. All you need to do is stop believing your mind when it projects a negative perception. Hope these insights provide you with guidance on how to stop complaining so much and start living more aligned with your true nature.