I’ve struggled with the feeling that I am not good enough. Haven’t we all?
Sometimes, we live in this place of not good enough. We assume that place as our identity, and we believe that “not good enough” is who we were destined to be. Yet, this is never the case.
Eventually, we will realize that we, and our flaws, mistakes, and imperfections, are more than enough, and always have been. Here are eight hand-picked, inspiring quotes to help you to realize how “enough” you really are.
“You’ve been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” – Louise Hay
I remind myself of this quote so often, because my mind likes to trick me into believing that I need to beat myself up for every imperfection, or else I’ll screw up even more, and end up sad, mediocre, and alone.
After years of self-judgment, I’m beginning to realize that this is simply not true.
I ask myself, what has self-criticism given me? Tears, frustration, and stagnation. When I berate myself, it becomes even harder for me to do anything– I’ve had plenty of nights and days where I laid in bed alone all day, unable to even find help for myself.
In short, self-criticism deflates your spirit, and defeats you before you even begin. It is not “motivating” like the tyrant in your head assumes it is. What will truly motivate you is self-love, approval, and acceptance. Try approving of yourself, even if it’s hard at first, and discover how much more you have to give.
“Perfection is shallow, unreal, and fatally uninteresting.” – Anne Lamott
If you think that you have to be perfect for people to like you, think again. Imperfection conveys vulnerability, and true vulnerability is something people can relate to. Plus, no one ever changed the world by following all of society’s rules. No one ever made a difference by trying to be “perfect”. The world doesn’t need perfection – the world needs you.
“Sometimes the wrong helps us find the right.” – anonymous
Don’t beat yourself up for staying in the wrong relationship or the wrong job for too long. Now you know exactly what you don’t want. Similarly, each time you make a mistake, you learn more easily.
If you never made a mistake or went the wrong way, how would you ever learn what is right for you, and what you truly want?
“If you love someone, the greatest gift you can give them is your presence.” – Thich Nhat Hanh
This quote helps me when I feel I haven’t given enough to others. In other words, I feel I should do so much more as a friend, sister, daughter, girlfriend, and so on and so on. I should be more caring, I should be there more often, I am never doing enough.
Imagine this: you are enough for all of the people you love, just by existing. You don’t have to try to be a good friend. You only have to be present with those you love. See them, hear them, and let them see how happy they make you. That’s all they need.
“You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress, simultaneously.” – Sophia Bush
So, you’re not where you want to be. You’re also not where you used to be. This quote reminds me to give myself credit for every victory, even the minuscule ones!
Don’t think that you can’t allow yourself to be happy or celebrate until you’re perfect, or until you’re “good enough”, or until you “get there”. You’re already there, even if you’ve got a long way to go. You’re a masterpiece.
“And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.” – John Steinbeck
Once again, when you’re trying so desperately to be perfect (without realizing that you already are), you’ll feel constantly defeated. Why? Because no accomplishment is ever enough for the bully in your brain. When you live life by these rules, you can never win.
Yet, when you stop trying to be perfect, something amazing happens– you realize how perfect you already are, imperfections and all. It might sound far off, but one day, you’ll realize that everyone has imperfections. Not just you. And that you are good, no matter where you’re at in life.
“If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.” – Maya Angelou
“Normal” is an illusion. Everyone defines “normal” differently. You are not normal, because normal doesn’t, and shouldn’t, exist. All of those flaws that you believe rob you of your normality are really the unique fingerprint of your soul.
When you try to be “normal” and fit yourself into someone else’s predefined boxes, you erase your own beautiful collage of talents, and you silence your own unique voice. When you drop the idea of “normal”, you can be whatever you were born into this body to be– because no one has ever been you before.
“Whatever arises, love that.” – Matt Kahn
This quote is actually the name of Matt Kahn’s book, one which has helped me tremendously. What he means by this simple statement is that, in short, everything we do and everything we are is only here to be loved.
Every imperfection, every thought, every feeling, and even the feeling that we cannot love ourselves– it’s all here to be loved, and the only one who can truly give us the love we deserve, is ourselves.