Comments on: Why Do We Worry and How to Stop Worrying?

By: Raff

Raff — Thu, 06 Oct 2011 13:36:18 +0000

I do not agree that we do not have control över life. If you decide to not fly you will not die in fly accident, you can control a lot, but not everything. You can always minimize the risks.

By: Sen(Author)

Sen(Author) — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 20:01:31 +0000

Negative thinking serves no purpose but to create resistance to the flow of life. When you know this truth, you will realize that it’s a waste of energy (and counterproductive) to give interest/attention to the negative thoughts of the mind. The brain is a survival machine and hence has the tendency to anticipate danger/threat to your well-being, even if it’s just imagined future scenarios. It’s your choice to let go of identifying with these thoughts in the brain, and shift your focus towards thoughts that bring you joy – this is what aligning with life is all about.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 12:36:30 +0000

Hey, I’m only young and I’ve been with my boyfriend for two and a half years. We have a great relationship but I constantly worry that something will happen that will make us break up. I don’t want to worry about this anymore because I know it won’t happen. Please tell me how I can stop this?

By: Sen(Author)

Sen(Author) — Fri, 13 May 2011 15:24:20 +0000

You are right Davy, the reason we cling to a bad relationship is because of the “neediness” within us to find security through a partner. Unless we are free within, we will always keep finding ourselves in “clingy” relationships which end up creating suffering for us. The way to freedom is let go of the mind, which is always trying to find security, and rest with your focus fully on the present. Allow life to move you instead of moving through the mind. One can sense the movement life when one is completely aligned with the now. The secret to stop worrying is to let go of the paying attention to the mind.

By: davy

davy — Fri, 13 May 2011 01:25:24 +0000

Hi Judy, I am just out of a bad relationship and having the same problem with sleeping, but then I have had this problem for years only in last couple of days repeatedly reading this articles I am starting to understand what they mean, it’s not something someone can really explain, only that you need to clear your mind of what has happened to make it a bad relationship to this date as it doesn’t matter anymore, and try to concentrate in the now. I have only realized now that I was emotionally reliant and although my partner was violent at times, it was me that gave her that power, by always looking for her approval, and having no self confidence but we cannot live like this, and to be loved properly we need to love ourselves first and if we love ourselves we won’t allow ourselves to be in a bad relationship! I know that’s probably confusing and your cursing me now, but please keep reading the articles related with this and just practice some of the techniques! Really hope this helps.

By: Judy

Judy — Mon, 09 May 2011 13:59:03 +0000

Can anyone tell me what living by the moment is all about? And how it can help me stop worrying? I am in a bad relationship and in a lot of confusion. I can’t even get to sleep. Please help!

By: Mark

Mark — Mon, 25 Apr 2011 15:21:47 +0000

The more I let go of my mind the less I get affected by its patterns of negative thinking. I can see the mind worrying about the future and I can also see that it’s just like a radio station which I can ignore at will. Thanks.

By: Renny

Renny — Sun, 17 Apr 2011 14:17:26 +0000

I really liked the advice in this article, but the fact is that it is hard sometimes to live by the moment. Especially when you are feeling anger or anxiety. I am an introvert and constantly keep worrying about social occasions. I get nervous while anticipating a social occasion, for instance, a birthday party in the office. No matter how much I try to stay in the now, I am not able to. Can you give some advice on what I can do in this situation?

By: Johni

Johni — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 19:54:04 +0000

Very good indeed!