Comments on: How to Overcome Feelings of Guilt?

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 16:21:55 +0000

Thanks a lot for this. I have learnt not to blame myself for some actions I have taken cause it was really worth taking. I have learnt to do what I want to do.

By: SG

SG — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 11:34:26 +0000

Thanks for the article. It has changed my life.

By: Guest

Guest — Sun, 15 Jan 2012 04:39:03 +0000

I was married for ten years with two wonderful children . We had great marriage I think I got bored I don’t know. We ended up in divorce due to my selfish wants I threw away a wonderful life and put my children thru such heartache. How can I forgive myself and stop wishing I could go back and change the past. It’s eating me alive inside please help.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 10 Jan 2012 00:31:37 +0000

Thanks for that article. My life was a horror since my ex left me. He was accusing me of cheating of which I was innocent. Always felt guilty.

By: Mans

Mans — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 12:38:04 +0000

Life is so strange, even when you have everything you need. When I was young I did so much wrong, thinking that it is fun. Having multiple affairs, cheating, telling lie etc. and it was really fun. I came across multiple young girls doing it for the first time, I enjoyed and felt proud sharing stories with my friends and sometimes felt guilty but overcome my guilt by my own thoughts then after few years I stated drinking thinking that it is even more fun combining both. Then suddenly I became regular drinker and my anger level rose to highest and my charm started fading. Small issues stated to become huge with family and friends. Few of my friends left me. I become what I was not, then I grew older and I married a woman who thinks she loved me for almost a decade. Strangely Love does not hold any meaning to me. Suddenly I stared to remember all the girls I have been with unable to enjoy with my wife. Now because of my past I am not able to enjoy my present.

Do we call it guilt, of-course yes. So this guilt is so much inside me, I am getting angrier and angrier each day and all it takes is 2-4 shots of liquor to make me relieved. Now I am continuously doing wrong to overcome my guilt somehow I am again doing wrong for which I will be guilty sometimes in future. But you know the best part, I don’t need help, I am strong enough to overcome anything. Will love her unconditionally and slowly slowly stop drinking and hopefully that would help me kill my anger. I will surely use the experience to become more mature. Thanks Sen.

By: M

Sat, 07 Jan 2012 04:12:00 +0000

I feel life is too short to be brainwashed by parents, media and other brainwash-sources. I feel good! I think my therapy was to read this article and try to apply it to my current situation and it really works! Enjoy life people. Remember, everything is right and everything is wrong, is all up to you. Be smart.

By: V

Sun, 25 Dec 2011 11:40:39 +0000

Thanks for this article but I still feel guilty. I have a girlfriend that I really love so much but I feel guilty of watching p*rn in the first week of our relationship (it was also my last time I watched it) because I stopped watching it. But I still feel so guilty I ever did this. I know if she would know it I ever did this then she will be very sad. I am the first boy who she ever kissed and she really loves me too and she trust me and I really want to be the best for but I can’t get that guilty feeling out of my mind because if I found that my girlfriend did the same, I would really not like it but I did it myself. I just always think that she don’t deserve me. I really don’t know what to do please help!

By: Amy

Amy — Fri, 25 Nov 2011 13:01:16 +0000

Thanks for posting this. It makes so much sense! I feel guilty over the past and guilty about everything. Then again it’s normal for me, given I do have OCD.

By: M

Sun, 13 Nov 2011 02:27:26 +0000

Thank you for this article. Gives me hope and a chance to forgive myself .

By: Sen(Author)

Sen(Author) — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 15:09:08 +0000

Waleed – You are taking life too seriously and the reason for your suffering, through guilt, is because of your belief in several “orthodox” messages given to your by your parents or media, which cause you to feel ashamed of your sexual expression. Sexuality is an aspect of humanness and is to be enjoyed – it’s only the suppression or guilt around sexual expression that leads to violent, hung up and dysfunctional behaviors in humans. Your physical body is an expression of consciousness out of its desire to enjoy experiences of physical nature – sexual experiences being one of them. By terming it as sinful or dirty you are not only making your mind feel guilty about its natural behavior but also creating thoughts of “self criticism” which is most toxic of all negative thoughts.

This universe is not judging you the way your society does. This universe, or life force, that has created you is totally in love with you as you are, and it’s not judging any of your actions. In fact the very reason for your human body is so you can enjoy these experiences of physical life. All “orthodox” beliefs are created from a place of fear, and none of them are aligned with unconditional love which life is. Let go of all these guilt ridden thoughts, let go of fears and align with your joy, align with what feels good to you in the moment.

Whatever you “suppress” in yourself is what you start “obsessing” about. When you “allow” something, consciously, you will no longer be obsessed about it. Be free with your mind, stop suppressing its expressions, desires and drives and consciously allow it to express itself in the way it wants to – if it enjoys watching the internet let it do so without trying to suppress its movement. Suppression is the cause of all dysfunctions, inside and outside. Only “fear” makes you suppress your mind’s expressions, be conscious and let go of these fear and allow your mind full freedom of expression.

Life is not judging you in anyway, only your fear based thoughts (acquired for your parents or society at large) is the cause of all your inner judgment about your actions. Stop living in fear and guilt, align with yourself and enjoy all the expressions of your body/mind.