Comments on: How To Deal With Unwanted Negative Thoughts? http://www.outofstress.com/stop-negative-thinking/ Articles to Help You Grow from Within Mon, 30 Jan 2012 21:53:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Ellen http://www.outofstress.com/stop-negative-thinking/#comment-63549 Ellen Sat, 28 Jan 2012 03:44:38 +0000 http://www.outofstress.com/?p=10#comment-63549 Hello Sen, I am so glad i came across this article. I am extremely paranoid and always have negative thoughts that my boyfriend is either lying or cheating on me. To be honest, yes he has cheated in the past we have been together for almost 4 years now and from what I know of he only cheated on me once at the beginning of our relationship. I found out, confronted him and he was really sorry and eventually I took him back. But now I accuse him of cheating all of the time or of lying to me he has been trying to prove to me over and over that he loves me and that he would never do that again. I believe him but I don't get why I accuse him all of the time. I am ruining my relationship and I need to change my negative thinking. I know I sound like a crazy person but it's just so hard to stop the negative thoughts when that's how I have always been. He is such a good guy, I don't want to push him away with negativity. I know there is only so much a guy is going to take. Help! Hello Sen, I am so glad i came across this article. I am extremely paranoid and always have negative thoughts that my boyfriend is either lying or cheating on me. To be honest, yes he has cheated in the past we have been together for almost 4 years now and from what I know of he only cheated on me once at the beginning of our relationship. I found out, confronted him and he was really sorry and eventually I took him back. But now I accuse him of cheating all of the time or of lying to me he has been trying to prove to me over and over that he loves me and that he would never do that again. I believe him but I don’t get why I accuse him all of the time. I am ruining my relationship and I need to change my negative thinking. I know I sound like a crazy person but it’s just so hard to stop the negative thoughts when that’s how I have always been. He is such a good guy, I don’t want to push him away with negativity. I know there is only so much a guy is going to take. Help!

]]> By: Nicola http://www.outofstress.com/stop-negative-thinking/#comment-61883 Nicola Tue, 17 Jan 2012 16:58:30 +0000 http://www.outofstress.com/?p=10#comment-61883 Wow, if only it really worked! I will try but I feel like I have been trying to change the way I let some thoughts haunt me but it has been over twenty years. Will I ever be the relaxed, easy going happy positive person I want to be or is this just me? The more I go the more I think that this is the way I am. My boyfriend is someone very positive and doesn't understand why I put myself through these tortures of past family problems or even the something someone said that I just can't get out of my head. We are destroying each, he wants me to be happy (I want to be happy too, I am happy sometimes) and I want him to understand that it's not as easy as Just Be Happy. Well for me it's not just that easy. And now I have got to the point where I just want to be me! I don't feel I can waste any more energy on fighting to think differently. Aarhh! Wow, if only it really worked! I will try but I feel like I have been trying to change the way I let some thoughts haunt me but it has been over twenty years. Will I ever be the relaxed, easy going happy positive person I want to be or is this just me? The more I go the more I think that this is the way I am. My boyfriend is someone very positive and doesn’t understand why I put myself through these tortures of past family problems or even the something someone said that I just can’t get out of my head. We are destroying each, he wants me to be happy (I want to be happy too, I am happy sometimes) and I want him to understand that it’s not as easy as Just Be Happy. Well for me it’s not just that easy. And now I have got to the point where I just want to be me! I don’t feel I can waste any more energy on fighting to think differently. Aarhh!

]]> By: Sam http://www.outofstress.com/stop-negative-thinking/#comment-60764 Sam Thu, 12 Jan 2012 05:48:29 +0000 http://www.outofstress.com/?p=10#comment-60764 Wow I just felt the most intense bliss ever! If you are wondering if it's worth stilling the mind I can tell you it's like taking a drug that opens up the pleasure centers in the brain except it's good for you not addictive and healthy! Thank you, no need to reply! Wow I just felt the most intense bliss ever! If you are wondering if it’s worth stilling the mind I can tell you it’s like taking a drug that opens up the pleasure centers in the brain except it’s good for you not addictive and healthy! Thank you, no need to reply!

]]> By: Pamela http://www.outofstress.com/stop-negative-thinking/#comment-56583 Pamela Mon, 26 Dec 2011 16:24:43 +0000 http://www.outofstress.com/?p=10#comment-56583 Hello Sen, what is ironic about me is that I love my life and I love working but every-time I need to start working and being productive and efficient in my life, bad thoughts form and weaken me by making me lose my time on them. I don't know why I never think negatively but when I decide to better myself! It's like I create them out of no where just to be terrified and so that my happiness is hindered. I feel so weak that I can't stop. I can't even understand why do they form. Help! Hello Sen, what is ironic about me is that I love my life and I love working but every-time I need to start working and being productive and efficient in my life, bad thoughts form and weaken me by making me lose my time on them. I don’t know why I never think negatively but when I decide to better myself! It’s like I create them out of no where just to be terrified and so that my happiness is hindered. I feel so weak that I can’t stop. I can’t even understand why do they form. Help!

]]> By: Sen(Author) http://www.outofstress.com/stop-negative-thinking/#comment-46965 Sen(Author) Fri, 25 Nov 2011 15:05:32 +0000 http://www.outofstress.com/?p=10#comment-46965 CA - Law of attraction works in your favor as soon as you align with "relaxing" instead of aligning with moving through fear. Just allow yourself to stay in as a relaxed space without identifying with the fear-based thoughts of the mind. This will allow a deeper wisdom to start operating in your life and will also allow the influx of positive realities owing to your vibration of peace. Right now a lot of your actions are being inspired from a vibration of insecurity rather than from a place of wisdom. The more you let go of identifying with the mind's fear based movement, and stay as a relaxed space of awareness the morel you become receptive to the wisdom of your wholeness (or totality). You can also read this post on my blog with respect to developing harmonious relationship - <a href="http://www.calmdownmind.com/neediness-in-your-relationships/" rel="nofollow">letting go of a needy mindset in relationships</a> CA – Law of attraction works in your favor as soon as you align with “relaxing” instead of aligning with moving through fear. Just allow yourself to stay in as a relaxed space without identifying with the fear-based thoughts of the mind. This will allow a deeper wisdom to start operating in your life and will also allow the influx of positive realities owing to your vibration of peace. Right now a lot of your actions are being inspired from a vibration of insecurity rather than from a place of wisdom. The more you let go of identifying with the mind’s fear based movement, and stay as a relaxed space of awareness the morel you become receptive to the wisdom of your wholeness (or totality).

You can also read this post on my blog with respect to developing harmonious relationship – letting go of a needy mindset in relationships

]]> By: CA http://www.outofstress.com/stop-negative-thinking/#comment-45038 CA Wed, 23 Nov 2011 09:01:31 +0000 http://www.outofstress.com/?p=10#comment-45038 Sen, Hi. I have been reading up on the law of attraction a lot lately. I have met a perfect man, and someone I really love. Yet something happened 4 months into our relationship. He had nothing to do with it. His ex "messaged" me pretending to be someone else, and told me to go to a link. I did, and up popped a nice long webpage and picture of him. Telling the world how he's a liar, cheater, and all this. It's been 9 months since than, and every time I accuse him of cheating, I can't find any evidence. He has let me search his phone, (without him even knowing I wanted to. I just asked him out of the blue), he has let me used his computer before when I forgot mine at home, and he had no idea I was going to need his, therefore, he had no time to delete anything. He also left to go bowling for a couple hours, therefore giving me plenty of time to search it. If he says he's home, he's home. If he says he's with the kids, he's with the kids. He has gotten so mad and irritated, and has almost left me a couple times because hes sick of the accusations. I guess I am afraid that, with my constant "thinking" he's cheating on me, will the law of attraction cause that to happen? Or is that me going crazy again? I want to trust him so bad but I am worried that the L.O.A. may have already intervened and caused something in the past. Please help. Thanks! Sen, Hi. I have been reading up on the law of attraction a lot lately. I have met a perfect man, and someone I really love. Yet something happened 4 months into our relationship. He had nothing to do with it. His ex “messaged” me pretending to be someone else, and told me to go to a link. I did, and up popped a nice long webpage and picture of him. Telling the world how he’s a liar, cheater, and all this. It’s been 9 months since than, and every time I accuse him of cheating, I can’t find any evidence. He has let me search his phone, (without him even knowing I wanted to. I just asked him out of the blue), he has let me used his computer before when I forgot mine at home, and he had no idea I was going to need his, therefore, he had no time to delete anything. He also left to go bowling for a couple hours, therefore giving me plenty of time to search it. If he says he’s home, he’s home. If he says he’s with the kids, he’s with the kids. He has gotten so mad and irritated, and has almost left me a couple times because hes sick of the accusations. I guess I am afraid that, with my constant “thinking” he’s cheating on me, will the law of attraction cause that to happen? Or is that me going crazy again? I want to trust him so bad but I am worried that the L.O.A. may have already intervened and caused something in the past. Please help. Thanks!

]]> By: SA http://www.outofstress.com/stop-negative-thinking/#comment-38617 SA Mon, 14 Nov 2011 18:25:12 +0000 http://www.outofstress.com/?p=10#comment-38617 To all the the people writing on this blog please buy this book and and see if it helps you in any way. It's called "Stop Thinking Start Living". It's £5 from amazon. Try it, you have nothing to lose, read the reviews on amazon. It has near enough helped me from self destruction to getting my life back on track and starting to be a really productive person. To all the the people writing on this blog please buy this book and and see if it helps you in any way. It’s called “Stop Thinking Start Living”. It’s £5 from amazon. Try it, you have nothing to lose, read the reviews on amazon. It has near enough helped me from self destruction to getting my life back on track and starting to be a really productive person.

]]> By: Tatianna http://www.outofstress.com/stop-negative-thinking/#comment-32548 Tatianna Mon, 07 Nov 2011 18:56:03 +0000 http://www.outofstress.com/?p=10#comment-32548 The mind can do horrific things, it can cause physical and emotional problems. There is no amount of time that can be given to a person to say when the negativity can stop. It's like saying when will war stop being a solution, or when will violence end. There is no deficient answer. But it can be controlled to the point where it stops taking over your life. I wrote here in April 2011 and now it's November 2011, I can now say truthfully I have control. Meaning "Fear" isn't all around me. I still have fear, but my mind isn't going off 1000 thoughts per second literally paralyzing me. There is a lot more consciousness and reality from who I am vs "my" thoughts now. It's not an easy task I'm still developing and growing each and everyday! What also helped for me was Belief. Truly believing in something. For me it was God, believing God knows me, and allowing Him to help me. To help me from what sometimes feels like a hellish monster (devil) that chooses when to creep in and out of my mind. It's a combination of knowledge and faith. For everyone it's different just find your potion mix. Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without - Buddah. The mind can do horrific things, it can cause physical and emotional problems. There is no amount of time that can be given to a person to say when the negativity can stop. It’s like saying when will war stop being a solution, or when will violence end. There is no deficient answer. But it can be controlled to the point where it stops taking over your life. I wrote here in April 2011 and now it’s November 2011, I can now say truthfully I have control. Meaning “Fear” isn’t all around me. I still have fear, but my mind isn’t going off 1000 thoughts per second literally paralyzing me. There is a lot more consciousness and reality from who I am vs “my” thoughts now. It’s not an easy task I’m still developing and growing each and everyday! What also helped for me was Belief. Truly believing in something. For me it was God, believing God knows me, and allowing Him to help me. To help me from what sometimes feels like a hellish monster (devil) that chooses when to creep in and out of my mind. It’s a combination of knowledge and faith. For everyone it’s different just find your potion mix. Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without – Buddah.

]]> By: J http://www.outofstress.com/stop-negative-thinking/#comment-23926 J Sun, 23 Oct 2011 22:31:12 +0000 http://www.outofstress.com/?p=10#comment-23926 I have the same problems as some people on here. I literally cannot stop thinking. Without even realizing sometimes if I'm not actively doing something, I suddenly snap out of this little dream and I don't even know until it's too late. Whether it's my partner cheating - one thing can be said, then I run a situation through my head like it's a movie or something. Or seeing awful images of monsters, or being killed, all sorts of terrible things. I feel as if my brain does this to me on purpose. Once I realize what I've been thinking about I then can't stop. I have the same problems as some people on here. I literally cannot stop thinking. Without even realizing sometimes if I’m not actively doing something, I suddenly snap out of this little dream and I don’t even know until it’s too late. Whether it’s my partner cheating – one thing can be said, then I run a situation through my head like it’s a movie or something. Or seeing awful images of monsters, or being killed, all sorts of terrible things. I feel as if my brain does this to me on purpose. Once I realize what I’ve been thinking about I then can’t stop.

]]> By: Sen(Author) http://www.outofstress.com/stop-negative-thinking/#comment-20561 Sen(Author) Mon, 17 Oct 2011 14:04:56 +0000 http://www.outofstress.com/?p=10#comment-20561 PD - The more you become "dependent" on someone the more that person is going to start feeling suffocated in your presence. The reason we become dependent on others emotionally is because we seek their approval, attention and affection. The only reason we seek attention externally is because we lack self-confidence or self-love. You are giving too much importance to people outside you and thus making yourself feel "inferior" in their comparison. You are being "needy", seeking your girlfriend's approval and affection. This causes her to feel suffocated in your presence. If you want to attract a positive reality, you will need to develop a huge amount of self-love. You will need to align with yourself, find yourself and accept/appreciate yourself as you are. Stop trying to fix the external reality and start working on fixing your inner space. Dissolve the negativity you feel towards yourself by bringing awareness to all the negative patterns in you. The only connection that's important is your connection with yourself - if you are not happy with yourself you will never be able to attract a partner who is totally happy with you. So work towards aligning with yourself. PD – The more you become “dependent” on someone the more that person is going to start feeling suffocated in your presence. The reason we become dependent on others emotionally is because we seek their approval, attention and affection. The only reason we seek attention externally is because we lack self-confidence or self-love. You are giving too much importance to people outside you and thus making yourself feel “inferior” in their comparison. You are being “needy”, seeking your girlfriend’s approval and affection. This causes her to feel suffocated in your presence.

If you want to attract a positive reality, you will need to develop a huge amount of self-love. You will need to align with yourself, find yourself and accept/appreciate yourself as you are. Stop trying to fix the external reality and start working on fixing your inner space. Dissolve the negativity you feel towards yourself by bringing awareness to all the negative patterns in you. The only connection that’s important is your connection with yourself – if you are not happy with yourself you will never be able to attract a partner who is totally happy with you. So work towards aligning with yourself.

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