21 Ingredients You Can Use to Create a Self-Love Spell Jar

Self love spell jar

Self-love spell jars are great for boosting your confidence. Even the act of preparing your spell can encourage you to spend some much-needed time sitting down and focusing on yourself.

Self-love spell jars are all about sending your positive intentions out into the universe by combining a simple set of powerful ingredients while focusing on your goals. For this reason, you must not be in a negative frame of mind when performing the spell.

So, relax in your favorite chair, put on some music, and enjoy the process! The more positive you are about yourself, the more effective your spell will be.

Ingredients to make a self-love spell jar

Rose self love jar

You can create a self love jar using the following basic ingredients:

  • Herbs & spices such as Cinnamon, Elderberry, Lavender, etc.
  • Crystals like Rose Quartz, Citrine, etc.
  • Salts like Himalayan pink salt or Epsom salt
  • Symbols in the form of sigils and runes.

Let’s take a look at these ingredients in details starting with the herbs.

Herbs & spices you can use in your spell jar

The following is a list of the most powerful herbs that will enhance self love and care. You can add a few or all of the following herbs if available. Please note that all these herbs need to be added in their dried form.

1. Rose petals

Rose petals are an excellent addition to any self-love spell jar because they are a strong symbol of love (there’s a reason roses are traditionally given to a loved one!). When rosebuds bloom, they represent you blossoming into your best self.

2. Cinnamon

Cinnamon sticks
Cinnamon has an intense, sweet scent that reminds you of Christmas. It is a great mood enhancer that can increase your energy levels and your confidence. Cinnamon has been revered as a powerful herb of protection and health for centuries, that is believed to enhance the effects of any spell.

3. Chamomile

Chamomile flower
Chamomile is famed for its soothing and relaxing properties. It is a highly protective and purifying herb that has been linked to the power of the sun since Ancient Egyptian times. Add chamomile to your self-love spell jar to encourage a positive outlook on life, as well as for emotional, spiritual, and physical healing.

4. Elderberry

The scientific name for the elder tree is Sambucus nigra, which refers to the Greek instrument that was made from the wood of this tree. As a result, the elderberry is closely associated with music and happiness. Elderberries are also thought to be capable of bridging the gap between the physical and spiritual realms. So, they can help you connect with your higher self and discover your true purpose in life.

5. Pink Himalayan salt

Pink Himalayan salt is a powerful cleanser that shares many properties with rose quartz. Adding pink Himalayan salt to your self-love spell jar will help to banish negativity, balance your aura, and boost your self-esteem.

6. Rosemary

Rosemary is another effective cleanser that works to reduce stress and purify the mind, body, and spirit. If you are lacking focus, this herb will help you to concentrate on your goals as it has been shown to improve memory. Aphrodite (the Goddess of love, beauty, and passion) is frequently depicted wearing rosemary sprigs so they are the perfect addition to any self-love spell jar!

7. Lavender buds

For over 2500 years, lavender has been revered for its calming and healing properties. Its’ heady scent can reduce stress and restore emotional balance. Lavender has been associated with love and affection since Ancient Egyptian times when Cleopatra was said to have used this herb to seduce Mark Antony and Julius Caesar.

8. Brown sugar

We all enjoy a little sugar, whether that is a piece of chocolate or a yummy dessert! Brown sugar is a mood enhancer that can help you feel more love and sweetness towards yourself.

9. Dandelion

The vibrant yellow color of the dandelion represents mental clarity, radiance, and healing. These flowers are known to be hardy so they remind you to be strong and shine bright even in the face of adversity.

10. Thyme

Thyme has been used in healing and purification rituals since Roman times. Inhaling the scent of this herb is believed to imbue you with courage and promote feelings of affection.

11. Lemon balm

Lemon Balm
Lemon Balm

Lemon balm is commonly used to treat depression and anxiety because of its’ uplifting scent and cleansing taste. It is a powerful feminine herb that is said to attract love and success. In fact, its powers are so great that Pliny the Elder stated:

“If it was attached to a sword that had made a wound, the blood would be immediately staunched.”

12. Basil

Basil plant
Basil has a long history of use as a herb to heal the spirit and banish negative thoughts. Basil is commonly used in love spells because it is believed to soothe tempers and promote feelings of compassion, loyalty, and harmony.

13. Sun Dried Orange peels

Orange peels represent the sun and carry a high energy field that can awaken the joy element within you. To make these dried peels, simply dry your orange peels in direct sunlight for around 2 to 3 days. It’s best to use peels from organic oranges.

14. Wintergreen

Wintergreen is a powerful herb that can help soothe your mind, body and spirit. If you can’t find wintergreen, you can substitute it with other mint varieties like Parsley or spearmint to your jar.

Crystals you can add to your spell jar

Crystals are optional but if you are into crystals you can add them to enhance the overall effect of your spell jar. Here are a few crystals you can consider using.

15. Citrine

Yellow Citrine crystal
Citrine is an incredibly positive crystal that can boost your self-esteem and increase feelings of joy. It is a fantastic crystal to add to your self-love jar if you are suffering from low energy or a lack of confidence.

16. Amethyst

Amethyst small crystal
Amethyst is a wonderful crystal for stress relief as it promotes serenity and activates spiritual awareness. Its intense purifying properties will detoxify your body, cleanse your aura, and help you to achieve emotional balance.

17. Malachite chips

Malachite crystal
Malachite is the stone of transformation which is strongly connected to the heart chakra. So, it will aid in the healing of old emotional wounds and help you to break the cycle of negative behavior patterns. Furthermore, this crystal will encourage you to step out of your comfort zone by gifting you with inner strength.

18. Rose quartz chips

Single rose quartz crystal
Rose quartz is known as the stone of unconditional love. This soft, feminine crystal will help to promote feelings of compassion and encourage self-care. Rose quartz is associated with the heart chakra, so it can also help heal emotional trauma.

19. Clear quartz

Clear quartz is all about self-reflection and growth. It is well known for its ability to balance spiritual energy and add additional power to any spell. It is also a strong protective crystal that will repel any negative energies.

Other ingredients you can add to your jar

20. A self-love sigil

Self love sigil
Sigils are pictorial symbols that were originally created to represent specific spirits or Gods. Today, sigils can be created to represent almost anything! There are numerous ready-made self-love sigils that you can find online. Alternatively, you can try drawing your own!

To begin, think of a word or phrase that represents your intention, such as I AM CONFIDENT. Then, eliminate all of the vowels. So, I AM CONFIDENCE would become MCNFDNC. Now, remove all of the repeating letters (MCNFD). You can now design an abstract symbol using the remaining letters. Remember to keep your goals in mind while drawing your sigil and let your subconscious guide you.

21. Runes

You can even consider adding powerful symbols or runes to your self-love jar as they can enhance the overall effect. Here are a few runes to consider.

1. Dagaz

Dagaz rune
Dagaz simply means ‘day’ or ‘dawn’. It is the rune of awakening that represents spiritual enlightenment and new possibilities.

2. Wunjo

Wunjo rune
Wunjo is the rune of joy that can be found in a welcoming hug or laughter with friends. It symbolizes harmony, hope, and fulfillment.

3. Inguz

Inguz rune
Inguz means ‘seed’ and it represents personal growth, knowledge, and new beginnings

What type of candle should you use?

The hot wax from your candle is used to seal your jar closed once all of the ingredients have been added. Every candle color has a different meaning so make sure you choose the one that feels right to you. White candles stand for purity, peace, and personal strength, whereas pink candles are perfect for promoting love, self-belief, and internal harmony. Use a red candle if you are looking to add more vitality and personal power into your life to help you achieve your dreams.

3 Steps to create your self-love spell jar

Step 1: Cleansing:

Gather all your ingredients and cleanse your space with incense or salt. Then sit quietly and meditate for a few minutes to clear your mind.

Step 2: Place the ingredients in your jar/bottle

When you are ready, place all the ingredients into your jar one at a time. Whilst doing this, it is important to state your intent behind each ingredient and focus on forgiving yourself for past mistakes. Allow yourself to feel worthy and confident by reminding yourself of your good qualities. Place the heavier items at the bottom of the jar and save the lighter things for last so they don’t flatten over time.

You can even add a few drops of water that has been cleansed under the light of a full moon, to increase the power of your spell. Place a cork or lid on your jar and seal with wax from your chosen candle.

Step 3: Charge the jar with positive energy

What you do next is up to you. You can either hold your jar and concentrate on filling it with positive thoughts, or you can recite a few meaningful words to solidify your intent. What matters most is that you do what feels right to you.

Where should you keep your self-love spell jar?

You can place your spell jar somewhere you will see it frequently, such as on your dressing table. You can also carry the jar around with you to promote healing and self-love. Every month, recharge your spell jar by placing it in the light of the full moon.

How often should you recharge your spell jar?

It is best to recharge the jar once every month in the full moon. Simply leave the jar outside on a full moon night making sure the light of the moon falls on it.


By creating a self-love jar, you are reminding yourself of your own strength and worth. Life is full of stumbling blocks that can cause us to lose faith in our abilities. However, by sending out positive thoughts into the universe, we can free the divine Goddess within!

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